Mother adds more than 20 blind date groups and introduces more than 20 objects to her daughter a wee-mentalist

Mom and more than 20 blind group a week to daughter introduced more than 20 objects "I was mad, every day they are forced to ask me and this or that man did not talk, seen, hear no, if I do not marry out, just as guilty as. Now I have the heart to die." The day before yesterday morning, who lives in Yinzhou Xiao Yan and contact the newspaper readers, etc. not to talk to reporters, she said in a series. Xiao Yan said that to drive her crazy "arch-criminal" is not for others, it is her own parents. The reason is that she is 28 years old has failed to find the object of marriage, immediately went to the end of the year, parents angry. Mom with more than 20 blind group, anxious to get married women Xiaoyan is a city institution for postgraduate studies, after graduation is the parents in the eyes of "older youth". Because of her usual interpersonal contact surface is small, since the year before, parents began to get together to find the object to her. Two years, in the arrangement of their parents, she has had more than ten times pro, but without success, or they don’t look her, or she despises people. Seeing her daughter’s age day by day, and many people her age are already married, father and mother more sit. Xiao Yan said that, from the beginning of last year, parents every Saturday Sunday on time to bridge Crescent "Mom and dad will be blind" report, see if you can find a suitable object for her. But Xiaoyan always feel that the blind way she can not accept, refuse to object parents recommended. "Sometimes, my mother go out, could you bring me back the more than 10 boys, one by one I meet requirements. I don’t agree, mother is very angry, confused relationship between mother and daughter very nervous." Xiao Yan said that. From the beginning of the year, with the use of the intelligent mobile phone mom learned to play WeChat, through a friend, one plus more than 20 blind WeChat group, the media do, a matchmaker is also in group, and the blind date scene. Xiao Yan’s mother treasured every day looking for future son-in-law in WeChat, and other similar "trouble" parents exchange experiences. "Every day I didn’t look at the mobile phone, WeChat is open, my mother gave me the recommended date. While say this for me, in a moment that is very good, I can not wait to marry immediately. She also let people add me as a friend, last week, a total of more than 20 men to add me as a friend. I feel shame, be not by. Someone looking for my mother asked what happened, is not to look down on others. My mom came back and I feel angry, I do not marry out, let her lose face, but my dad pulled, I have moved out. Marry is my fault?" Xiao Yan said more and more gas. The small Yan also told reporters that she had a plan for my future, know what to look for what kind of people. She is a 75 meters high, looking for a head taller than her, there is a degree of about her, with common interests. But her mother is now the meaning of "hungry", "picked up the basket are food, this is her in any case can not accept the. Although my mom kept to her, but she definitely did not want his hastily married. At the end of the year to marry a nasty encounter, blind fear of reporters yesterday from a number of matchmaking agencies.

老妈加20多个相亲群 一周给女儿介绍20多个对象“我都快疯了,他们每天都逼着问我和这个或那个男的聊过没有,见过没有,有眉目没有,好像我嫁不出去,就像犯了多大的罪一样。我现在想死的心都有了。”前天上午,家住鄞州的读者小燕和本报取得联系,还没来得及等记者说话,她就一连串地说。小燕说的要把她逼疯的“罪魁祸首”不是别人,正是她的亲生爹娘。原因是她28岁了还没有找到心仪的结婚对象,马上又到年底了,父母又急眼了。老妈加了20多个相亲群,恨不得马上嫁女小燕是我市某事业单位的职工,因为读过研究生,毕业后已经是家长眼中的“大龄青年”了。由于她平时人际接触面小,从前年开始,父母就开始张罗着给她找对象。两年间,在父母的安排下,她先后相过十多次亲,但是都没有成功,要么人家看上不她,要么她看不上人家。眼看女儿的年龄一天比一天大,和她同龄的很多人都已经结婚生子,老爹老妈更坐不住了。小燕说,从去年开始,父母每周六周日准时到琴桥畔的“老爸老妈相亲会”报到,看能不能给她找到合适的对象。但小燕总觉得这种相亲方式她接受不了,就拒绝了父母推荐的对象。“有时候,我妈出去一趟,能给我带回来十多个男孩子的资料,要求我挨个见面。我不同意,老妈就很生气,弄得母女关系很紧张。”小燕说。从今年初开始,用上了智能手机的老妈学会了玩微信,通过朋友介绍,一下子加了20多个相亲微信群,有媒体办的,有红娘群,也有在相亲会现场加的。小燕的母亲如获至宝,每天都在微信里寻找未来的女婿,并和其他有类似“烦恼”的父母们交流心得体会。“我每天不敢看手机,打开微信,都是我妈给我推荐的相亲对象。一会儿说这个适合我,一会儿又说那个很不错,恨不得马上把我嫁出去。她还让人家加我为好友,上周,一共有20多个男的要加我为好友。我自己都感到丢人,一律不通过。有人就找我妈问咋回事,是不是看不起人家。我妈回来就和我生气,觉得我嫁不出去,让她丢了面子,要不是我爸拉着,我都要搬出去住了。嫁不出去是我的错么?”小燕越说越来气。小燕还告诉记者,她对自己的未来有规划,知道自己要找的人是什么样。她自己的个子有一米七五高,想找一个比她个头高的,还有就是学历和她差不多、有共同爱好的。但她老妈的意思是现在“饥不择食”,“捡到篮子里都是菜”,这是她无论如何也接受不了的。虽然老妈口口声声是为了她好,但她绝对不想把自己草草嫁出去。年底遭遇催婚急,一提相亲就害怕记者昨天从多家红娘机构了解到,随着年底越来越近,相亲活动也到了高峰期。“最近前来登记的大龄男女比平时多了两倍,有的大龄男女父母还在旁边守着,看到前来登记的异性,父母自己先问个底朝天,如果有合适的,就抢先给自己的儿女介绍了,都有点像拉郎配了。”江东“牵手红娘”的义务红娘周阿姨说。另据义务红娘朱阿姨介绍,年底也是大龄男女被催婚最急的时候,许多家长将子女的婚配大事揽到自己身上,希望儿女的婚姻大事在年底有个着落,一家人可以欢欢乐乐地过个年。像小燕这样被催婚的单身男女并不在少数。住在江东的夏小姐就无奈地表示,“每到这时候,我妈就通过各种关系给我介绍相亲对象,基本上每个礼拜我都要见一两个男孩子,她就是希望我能在过年前把对象的事情给定下来。”夏小姐现在回家的次数越来越少,“每次跟家里人吃顿饭,饭桌上必不可少的话题就是介绍对象。我现在都怕了,能躲就躲,虽然自己已经29岁了,但是一想到这样被催着相亲就害怕。”在宁波某国企工作的赵先生今年35岁,也正在遭遇催婚“危机”。他的父母跟他说了,如果今年找不到媳妇、明年抱不上孙子,以后就不用回家了。现在,他唯一的办法是听父母的,拼命去相亲。近半个月来,他在父母的安排下,已经见了不下20个女孩子。“我不是走在去相亲的路上,就是正在相亲,但是一时半会儿又找不到合适的,搞得非常疲惫,可我又不想随随便便找个人,稀里糊涂地走进婚姻的围城。”采访中记者还了解到,在社交媒体和本地论坛上,年底父母催婚的行为又成了大龄男女吐槽的话题。网友“明志杰”说,她母亲最近的主要任务就是参加各种各样的相亲会,帮她相亲,在不到一个月的时间里,母亲给她带回来40多份相亲资料,让她挑选。“我妈说,如果再不主动,好男孩都被挑光了,以后可能真的嫁不出去了。其实我今年才26岁,还没感到那么紧迫。可是我妈现在搞得我好像菜场快收市时的剩菜一样,被降价处理。所以,我现在一听到相亲就害怕,能躲就躲,让他们折腾去吧。我妈说我不理解他们,现在关系有些僵。”家长应该“理性操心”,保持乐观的心态宁波女子学院婚姻心理咨询师徐老师在接受记者采访时表示,尽管父母希望早日看见孩子成家的心情可以理解,但父母与子女的沟通方式非常重要。一些父母过于焦虑和极端的行为是不可取的,结果反而会适得其反,不但有可能影响孩子的工作,更有可能加剧孩子的对抗心理,甚至对即将到来的婚姻生活产生厌恶。“父母要积极和儿女进行理性沟通,让他们看清楚自己目前所处的状况,搞清楚自己要寻找什么样的人生伴侣。”徐老师说,在与子女沟通的过程中,父母关键要了解孩子内心真正的需求,以及他们对另一半的期望目标,而不是全凭父母自己的喜恶标准来选择。宁波电台知名相亲栏目“社区红娘”的主持人小叶则表示,不少年轻人由于工作繁忙、交际圈狭窄,所以忽略了自己的终身大事,这样的情况下父母们应该将心态放轻松,在积极帮孩子物色对象的同时学会适当放手,在给孩子们做合适的牵线搭桥之后,就应该放手让年轻人去相处交往,而不要进行过多干涉。父母一定要调整好自己的心态,为子女操心可以理解,但一定要理性、节制。儿孙自有儿孙福,在为子女操心终身大事的时候,父母尤其要注意自己的身体健康,保持乐观的心态,这样才不会反过来成为子女的负担。相关的主题文章: